Self Improvement: How to get people to like you

I am deeply interested in these social topics. And so i'll share some tips that i have learned from numerous books as well as some i got from the internet.




1)Encourage people to talk about themselves 
 It gives their brain as much pleasure as food or money

Talking about ourselves—whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money, researchers reported Monday…

“Self-disclosure is extra rewarding,” said Harvard neuroscientist Diana Tamir, who conducted the experiments with Harvard colleague Jason Mitchell. Their findings were published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. “People were even willing to forgo money in order to talk about themselves,” Ms. Tamir said.

2) To give feedback, ask questions
-  If you use questions to guide people toward the errors in their thinking process and allow them to come up with the solution themselves, they’re less likely to feel threatened and more likely to follow through.

3) Ask for advices.
-Stanford professor Jeffrey Pfeffer, persuasion expert Robert Cialdiniand many others have all recommended asking for advice as a powerful way to influence others and warm them to you.

4) The two question technique.
-Ask them about something positive in their life. Only after they reply should you ask them how they’re feeling about life in general.

5) Repeat the last three words.
- ''…simply repeat—or parrot—the last two or three words your companion said, in a sympathetic, questioning tone. That throws the conversational ball right back in your partner’s court.''

-It shows you’re listening, interested, and lets them get back to telling their story.

Source from：http://time.com/2917367/5-secrets-that-will-help-you-master-conversation-skills/

6) Make sure you looks smart
- Dress well, who likes a person who is messy and scrubbish? A person who dresses well attracts attention from the others, to me.

7)  Be cheerful in your heart
- learn to be open to the surroundings and to other people, people like others who are cheerful, because they're looking good.

8)  Learn to act
- Personally, i don't really agree with this statement. But it has a point. ''Be yourself'' might be good, might be bad as well. The good is, you're all yourself. You're free to feel anything. The bad is, if you're naturally a weak person, mostly consists of negative traits or maybe a loser, do you want to be yourself...? Fake it until you make it, might have its validity in social settings.

9) Smile more and smile to the others
- Smile has a meaning: i like you. Let others know that you like them by smiling to them. It's one of the greatest gifts that doesn't cost. And that is how friendships are form. Smile.

Treat the others the way you want to get treated.

Peace. :))




''I'm definitely a people person. I love socializing and being around people and having a good conversation.'' 

                                                                            ----------Emily Deschanel